Even when you do the right thing, someone may take it the wrong way.

A Post Office worker at the main sorting office finds an unstamped, poorly
hand-written envelope addressed to God. He opens it and discovers it is from
an elderly lady, distressed because some thief robbed her of 100 dollars. She
will be cold and hungry for the rest of the month if she doesn't receive some
divine intervention.

The worker organizes a collection amongst the other postal workers, who dig
deep and come up with 96 dollars. They get it to her by special courier the
same morning.

A week later, the same postal worker recognizes the same hand on another
envelope. He opens it and reads: "Dear God, Thank you for the 100 dollars.
This month would have been so bleak otherwise. P.S. It was four dollars short
but that was probably those thieving bastards at the Post Office."

Yes, it's a joke, but there's a kernel of truth.  What I do, even with the best intentions, can be interpreted completely differently.  

Introvert vs. Extrovert

My triad has lots of "Introvert" vs. "extrovert discussions...

Our primary extrovert is now gone, but frequently cited Introvert/Extrovert as the source of conflict.  Most pressing is that we were mismatched in our daily functions.  I'm the Introvert and saddled with a job which requires frequent, constant contact and communication with co-workers.  Meanwhile, my extrovert partner was sitting at home alone the entire day.  

When I'd come home to relax and be alone, she'd be ready to go out and do things, meet people and have a good time.  Because that extrovert couldn't have a good time unless there is an audience and lots of energy.  The only time I was alone was during my 15 minute commute each day.  

I'd come home exhausted to someone who wanted entertainment, and I was not enough.  She didn't drive, and couldn't entertain herself.  So I ended up being the bad guy... Keeping her from doing what she wanted.  I prevented her from living a happy life in a larger city.  Now she's gone to the city... enjoying the life she wanted, back to wild parties with lots of friends.  

I've wondered if it is easier to be in a relationship similar or different personality types.  My other partner is an introvert.  We've got very different viewpoints, but enjoy spirited conversations.  

Maybe the other relationship would have worked if our lives were reversed... She had the job with lots of people contact, and I had the quiet life at home.  We'll never know.